Asked by Anonymous Anonymous
That, my dear, is a really good question. One I’ve already answered, in our FAQ. But because people (EVEN ME) are lazy, i’ll repeat it here :D
Q: Why are labels so important? Why can’t you just live a happy free label-less life?
A: We use labels to “sort” people all the time. For example:
* He’s black.
* She’s a red sox fan.
* He’s a buckeye fan.
* They’re a whovian.
* They’re asian.
* Hir’s a sherlokian.
* Ze is a home stuck fan.
* Xe is a muggle.
* She is a lesbian.
* He is asexual.
* They’re demiboy.
* Xe’s skoliosexual.
* Hir is androgynous.
So, labels? Hella important. Why? So we know who we are. So we know we are not alone. So we can find similar people. To help understand who we are and our struggles. Not all ftm’s (for example) have the same story, but I bet you there are similar themes.
To answer your questions, however, we need to label ourselves because, for SOME people (not all) it is helpful to find people like ourselves so we know we’re not a freak.
Like myself - asexual. I thought i was just broken (because society is all sex sex sex) because i was all like “no sex” and not sexually attracted to people and all that jazz. and then i heard ‘asexual’ and what it was, and was like OMG I’M NOT A FREAK, there’s more like me! and it was happy and awesome.
(also, intersex is a medical condition, not just a label)
Kind of obvious…As much as people don’t want to be labeled by others, we want to know how to label ourselves so we know who we are and can find others that can relate to us.
People need to get it through their heads that labels are not for the benefit of the people around those who use labels. They are for the benefit of the people using them for themselves. Labels are for personal use so someone can have some form of identity. It’s completely wonderful to find someone else that uses the same one, because then you know you are not alone.
You do not need to use labels, but you damn well better respect them.
I fuckin’ flat-out LOST IT at that last one. Holy shit.
ASSORTED ENTERTAINMENT CRACKERS
Never be afraid to fail.
Aside from the actual good advice, the speech is legitimately hilarious.
Kendra Wells (via belle-de-nuit)
Well this is fucking surreal